May 23 2013

Lap Band: When Diets and Exercise Don’t Work

Published by under Medical

When diets and exercise don’t work, the best option could be weight loss surgery like the Lap Band surgery. This surgery has been a success in having patients lose the weight that is needed and the best thing of it is that it can be reversible, not like other permanent weight loss surgeries.

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The lap band cost can range from $15,000 to $18,000. Price can depend on either if patient had previous existing medical conditions, what lap band surgeon the patient chooses, what hospital or facility the surgery takes place, and also what method of payment the patient chooses to use. The lap band is covered by most PPO insurance. If the insurance plan does not cover bariatric procedures, there’s also financing options. Most lap band facilities offer financing services though medical financing companies like Care Credit. With healthnet lap band surgery can be covered under certain plans. It is important to consider that most insurance companies will ask for several requirements in order to approve surgery, such as the patient being put on a special diet, and documentation of weight lost history.

The lap band hospital where you schedule the procedure is very important when it comes to your satisfaction with the procedure. Doing research about doctors and centers is very important.

For more information about the lap band do a search in your favorite search engine.

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Aug 23 2014

What you should know about Sexual Harassment

Published by under General

Sexual harassment is a form of discrimination, in the United States, that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Sexual harassment occurs when one employee makes continued, unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, to another employee, against his or her wishes.

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Sexual harassment occurs when one employee makes continued, unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, to another employee, against his or her wishes.

According to a current issues update from the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), sexual harassment occurs, “when submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual’s work performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment.”

Examples of Sexual Harassment

Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of situations. These are examples of sexual harassment, not intended to be all inclusive.

  • Unwanted jokes, gestures, offensive words on clothing, and unwelcome comments and repartee.
  • Touching and any other bodily contact such as scratching or patting a coworker’s back, grabbing an employee around the waist, or interfering with an employee’s ability to move.
  • Repeated requests for dates that are turned down or unwanted flirting.
  • Transmitting or posting emails or pictures of a sexual or other harassment-related nature.
  • Displaying sexually suggestive objects, pictures, or posters.
  • Playing sexually suggestive music.

When an employee complains to a supervisor, another employee, or the Human Resources office, about sexual harassment, an immediate investigation of the charge should occur. Supervisors should immediately involve Human Resources staff. Employees need to understand that they have an obligation to report sexual harassment concerns to their supervisor or the Human Resources office.

Policies to Adopt to Prevent and Address Sexual Harassment

Your policy handbook needs a:

  • sexual harassment policy,
  • general harassment policy,
  • policy about how sexual harassment investigations are conducted in your company, and
  • policy that forbids an employee in a supervisory role from dating a reporting employee and that details the steps required should a relationship form.

I’m not a fan of non-fraternization policies. I think the workplace is one of the logical locations for people to meet and fall in love, as long as the employees engaged in the relationship follow common sense guidelines. But, dating your reporting staff is never appropriate. After creating these policies, you need to train all employees about these policies.

The Role of Managers in Harassment Prevention and Investigation

Managers and supervisors are the front line when it comes to managing employee performance and needs from work. First, and most importantly, you do not want a workplace culture that allows any form of harassment to occur. Out of your commitment to your employees and your company, harassment, in any form, is never to be tolerated.

In harassment, as well as in other law suit-engaging topics, as an employer, demonstrating that you took appropriate steps is crucial. In fact, demonstrating that you took immediate action and that the consequences for the perpetrator were severe, is also critical.

And, the front line leader is usually the person initiating and following through on those steps, so they have to feel confident about what they are doing. Any form of harassment can create a hostile work environment including sexual harassment and how it is addressed.

The court’s definition of what constitutes a hostile work environment has recently expanded to coworkers who are caught up in the situation, too.

As you think about sexual harassment and other forms of harassment in your work place, keep these facts in mind.

  • The employee harassing another employee can be an individual of the same sex. Sexual harassment does not imply that the perpetrator is of the opposite sex.
  • The harasser can be the employee’s supervisor, manager, customer, coworker, supplier, peer, or vendor. Any individual who is connected to the employee’s work environment, can be accused of sexual harassment.
  • The victim of sexual harassment is not just the employee who is the target of the harassment. Other employees who observe or learn about the sexual harassment can also be the victims and institute charges. Anyone who is affected by the conduct can potentially complain of sexual harassment.For example, if a supervisor is engaged in a sexual relationship with a reporting staff member, other staff can claim harassment if they believe the supervisor treated his or her lover differently than they were treated.
  • In the organization’s sexual harassment policy, advise the potential victims that, if they experience harassment, they should tell the perpetrator to stop, that the advances or other unwanted behaviors are unwelcome.
  • Sexual harassment can occur even when the complainant cannot demonstrate any adverse affect on his or her employment including transfers, discharge, salary decreases, and so on.
  • When an individual experiences sexual harassment, they should use the complaint system and recommended procedures as spelled out in the sexual harassment policy of their employer. The investigation should be conducted as spelled out in the handbook.
  • The employer has the responsibility to take each complaint of sexual harassment seriously and investigate. The investigation should follow these steps listed in How to Address Sexual Harassment Charges.
  • Following the investigation of the harassment complaint, no retaliation is permitted, regardless of the outcome of the investigation.The employer must, in no way, treat the employee who filed the complaint differently than other employees are treated nor change his or her prior-to-the-complaint treatment. If it is determined that the employee lied, disciplinary action is necessary, however.


Please note that I make every effort to offer you common-sense, ethical management advice on this Web site, but I am not an attorney and the articles on the site are not to be construed as legal advice. The site has a world-wide audience and employment laws and regulations vary from state to state and country to country. When in doubt, always seek legal counsel. The ideas on this site are for guidance and examples.

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Aug 22 2014

The Killing of Kajieme Powell and How It Divides Americans

Published by under Legal

The mentally disturbed man was shot to death by St. Louis law-enforcement officers after walking toward them with a knife. Video of the incident has sparked debate about the police’s reaction.

The police officers who shot and killed Kajieme Powell, 25, in St. Louis, Missouri, on Tuesday did so while being recorded by a man with a cell phone camera. St. Louis Police Chief Sam Dotson and police union officials say the video is exculpatory and that the two officers on the scene followed proper protocol. Many who’ve watched the shooting grant that the police were put in a difficult, volatile, potentially deadly situation, but still feel that their actions were wrongheaded. The footage certain to be debated in coming days begins at the 1:20 mark. Be forewarned that the video shows a man being shot repeatedly and killed. Due to its disturbing nature some readers may prefer to skip watching it entirely.


What I see in this video (as well as in an even clearer version that CNN somehow obtained) is a man almost certainly suffering from mental illness who deliberately provokes these police officers, putting them in a terrible, unfair position that will probably haunt them forever—and police officers who immediately played into the orchestrated confrontation that the seemingly unstable man created. I also see an incident that contradicts what Police Chief Sam Dotson described to onlookers at the scene, as reported by the St. Louis Dispatch. The discrepancy comes after police arrive and start giving Powell orders…

…but he became more agitated and walked toward them, reaching for his waistband. Witnesses told police the man was yelling, “Shoot me, kill me now,” during the encounter, Dotson said. The officers drew their weapons and ordered Powell to stop. He did stop, but then pulled out a knife and came at the officers, gripping and holding it high, Dotson said. They ordered him to stop and drop the knife. When he got within 2 or 3 feet of the officers, they fired, killing Powell.

Was Powell holding a knife high as he approached the police officers? I don’t see that. It looks to me as though his arms remain low at his sides, and that detail doesn’t appear in the police report. The cause of this disparity isn’t clear, but the position of the knife doesn’t significantly change how much of a threat it posed, anyways.

When I first watched the video, I wanted the officers to back up to buy time as the man slowly approached. A police training video helped me to better understand the mindset of the officers, given the information that they’ve likely been given about research into the distance at which a man with a knife is dangerous:

With that in mind, it seems to me that the initial set-up chosen by the police officers was the bigger problem. The man with the knife wasn’t anywhere near other onlookers and perhaps could’ve been calmed or incapacitated with less than lethal force had the officers given themselves more space and time. If they had it do to over, would they have parked farther away, or stood on the other side of their vehicle while engaging the man? Would they assert themselves less confrontationally? (On the other hand, would you or I do any better in their place?)

“It is easy to criticize,” Ezra Klein writes. “It is easy to watch a cell phone video and think of all the ways it could have gone differently. It is easy to forget that the police saw a mentally unbalanced man with a knife advancing on them. It is easy to forget that 20 seconds only takes 20 seconds. It is easy to forget that police get scared. It is easy not to ask yourself what you might have done if you had a gun and a man came at you with a knife.” All true. “But there is still something wrong with that video,” he adds, doing his best to articulate specific objections that I share:

The police arrive and instantly escalate the situation… Powell looks sick more than he looks dangerous. But the police draw their weapons as soon as they exit their car… They don’t seem to know how to stop Powell, save for using deadly force. But all Powell had was a steak knife. If the police had been in their car, with the windows rolled up, he could have done little to hurt them…

…Even when he advances on police, he walks, rather than runs… He swings his arms normally, rather than entering into a fighting stance. They begin yelling at him to stop. And when they begin shooting, they shoot to kill—even continuing to shoot when Powell is motionless on the ground. There is no warning shot, even. It does not seem like it should be so easy to take a life.

That’s how I felt, too.

A police officer might retort that law enforcement shouldn’t be obligated to take on any extra risk to their own lives in a dangerous situation wholly and needlessly created by a person menacing them. A citizen deliberately baiting police with a deadly weapon cannot expect restraint. Even a small knife can be deadly.

In the abstract, I can’t disagree with those principles—and if questionable police killings were confined to such circumstances, there’d be less cause than now to complain about overzealous law enforcement. Yet watching this video, it seems certain in hindsight that the threat could’ve been stopped with force short of at least nine and as many as 12 gunshots; and again, if they’d kept more initial distance between themselves and a man they knew to have a knife before they even arrived, perhaps no deadly threat would’ve materialized. If they’d stood well back and engaged, perhaps Powell would’ve kept coming with a knife until stopped.

But they didn’t even attempt that strategy. (As Elizabeth Brown notes, deadly interactions with the mentally ill happen a lot, and failure to even try deescalating is often a factor.) I suspect that Klein is right when he says that in this case, despite clear video evidence of what happened, “what the police believe to be the right thing and what the people they serve believe to be the right thing may be very different.”

Perhaps highlighting different reactions will at least clarify how different Americans feel about the same incident. If nothing else, a gulf in public opinion almost certainly undermines the effectiveness of police departments that depend on community support. With that in mind, here are some illuminating reactions to the killing.

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Jul 06 2014

How to avoid internet scams

Published by under General,Technology

I love con movies almost as much as time-travel flicks. Diggstown? House of Games? Classics.

But the top-10 internet scams are rampid, and prey on our basic psychological vulnerabilities, and our lack of knowledge about technology and bank laws. I received a recent thank-you from someone whose wife was almost hooked by the Cambridge “Who’s Who” scam and was saved by my video. So I decided to dig up some of the top 10 scams of 2009, and provide some tips for avoiding them.

I’m imagining WVFF readers are generally immune to most of these, but we all know parents, spouses, neighbors, friends and siblings that don’t know that an urgent note from the bank could take someone to a convincing looking (but fradulant) website they trust enough to enter their username and password. And very few people know that when a check hits your bank account, it shows up on your statement immediately… but until the check is cleared (5-7 days)the money isn’t yours. It could be a bad check, and that short window is just enough to get people to make some understandable but costly blunders… even when trying to buy or sell something legally.

So pass this post along politely to someone who may be a gullible noob, but you love ‘em enough to protect them from a painful scam. Warning signs of scam vulnerability include the chronic forwarding of e-mails about new viruses, Neiman Marcus cookie recipes, Internet taxes, or baby carrots being permeated with chlorine… send them to SnopesUrban Legends (, or Hoax-Slayer. I like hitting “reply all” with Snopes source because it saves other people and embarasses the noob enough to make them more savvy.

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  1. The Nigernian Scam: This evolving scam, which originated  back in the 1920s as ‘The Spanish Prisoner’ con involves someone begs for help in getting a very large sum of money out of the country. A common variation is a woman in Africa who claimed that her husband had died, and that she wanted to leave millions of dollars of his estate to a good church. In every variation, the scammer is promising obscenely large payments for your risk-free task as the “middleman.”  They will use your emotions and willingness to help against you. They will promise you a large cut of their business or family fortune. All you are asked to do is cover the endless “legal” and other “fees” that must be paid to the people that can release the scammer’s money. You will never see any of the promised money, because there isn’t any. And if money does hit your account, you should read about bank deposit timing in the “Overpayment Scam” listed in #5. Tip: Ignore or play with them and see how desperate they get.. record it for YouTube.
  2. Pre-Approved Credit for Upfront Fee: If you are thinking about applying for a “pre-approved” loan or a credit card that charges an up-front fee, ask yourself: “why would a bank do that?” Reputable credit card companies sometimes charge an annual fee but it is applied to the balance of the card, not at the sign-up. These people do not know you or your credit situation, so it’s odd they’d be willing to offer massive credit limits. Tip: Stick with a legitimate bank, or type the name in Google and add hoax/con to see if there are other complaints.
  3. The Lotto Winning:An intriguing email from someone claims that you won a huge amount of money. The visions of a dream home, fabulous vacation, or other expensive goodies cause you to overlook the fact that you probably never entered the lotto. The catch: before you can collect your “winnings,”  you must pay the “processing” fee of several thousands of dollars. Tip: tell them to deduct process fees from the winnings. A real lotto would not require you to “front” cash for administration.
  4. Verify Your Password Urgently (Pfishing): This is a common scam for noobs because it’s easy for a spammer to appear like your bank. Variations of this make it one of the most widespread Internet and e-mail scam. It is the modern day “sting” con game. “Phishing” is where digital thieves lure you into divulging your password info through convincing emails and web pages. These phishing emails and web pages closely resemble legitimate credit authorities like Citibank, eBay, or PayPal. They lure you (fear of account problems) to a phony web page where they snag your ID and password. Tip: Real banks almost never send these notices. Watch the URL carefully even if the site looks authentic. Better yet, go to the site directly or Google it — rather than following the link. Otherwise you’ll find someone has  accessed your account and fleeced you for several hundred dollars.
  5. Overpayment Scam:Nothing quite wins our trust as when someone overpays us for something. But few realize that a deposited check shows up on your account balance even before it’s “cleared.” So if I “accidentally” sent you a check for $10,000 for your $5,000 car, you might quickly pay me $5,000 back… before you realize that my $10,000 check appeared as a depositbut the check was fake. People lose the item they’ve sold, and the “overpayment” as well, not to mention the trouble you face with your own bank. Tip: Ensure with your bank that the check iscleared before you transfer goods or overpayments.
  6. You’re Hired!You have posted your resume, with at least some personal data accessible by potential employers, on a legitimate employment site. You receive a job offer to become a “financial representative” of an overseas company you have never even heard of before. You will be paid 5 to 15 percent commission per transaction. If you apply, you will provide the scammer with your personal data, such as bank account information, so you can “get paid”. Instead, you will experience some, or all, of the following: identity theft, money stolen from your account, or (similar to the “overpayment scam” you’ll get fake deposits, but must send back 85-95 percent back. Tip: Send them nothing until you know a check has cleared. Watch them sweat in the 5-7 days after they deposit, because they know they’re about to lose you.
  7. Disaster ReliefYou want to help victims of 9-11, Tsunami and Katrina. In times like these, good people pull together to help the survivors in any way they can, including online donations. Scammers set up fake charity websites and steal the money donated to the victims of disasters.
    If your request for donation came via email, there is a chance of it being a phishing attempt. Do not click on the link in the email and volunteer your bank account or credit card information. Tip: Contact the recognized charitable organization directly by phone or their website.
  8. Travel ScamYou’re invited to get a free or inexpensive trip… but you must book it today or the offer expires that evening. If you call, you’ll find out the travel is free but the hotel rates are highly overpriced. Some offer  rock-bottom prices but hide certain high fees until you “sign on the dotted line”. Others, in order to give you the “free” something, will make you sit through a timeshare pitch at the destination. Still others can just take your money and deliver nothing. Also, getting your refund, should you decide to cancel, is usually a lost cause, often called a nightmare or mission-impossible. Tip: Research the company, or stick with legitimate services like Travelocity, Expedia, and Priceline (but still watch for hidden fees and refund options).
  9. Send $5 to Five People, and Get Rich QuickIt’s a classic pyramid scheme: you get an email with a list of names, you are asked to send 5 dollars (or so) by mail to the person whose name is at the top of the list, add your own name to the bottom, and forward the updated list to a number of other people. The author of this scam letter painstakingly explains that, if more and more people join this chain, when it’s your turn to receive the money, you might even become a millionaire! Bear in mind that, most times, the list of names is manipulated to keep his name and his buddies on top permanently. Tip: Avoid it: It’s illegal, and you risk being charged with fraud – definitely not something you want on your record, or resume.
  10. Turn Your Computer Into a Spam Machine & Make Big Money:You send someone money for instructions on where to go and what to download and install on your computer to turn it into a money-making machine… for spammers. At sign-up, you get a unique ID and you have to give them your PayPal account information for the “big money” deposits you’ll “soon” be receiving. The program that you are supposed to run, sometimes 24/7, opens multiple ad windows, repeatedly, thus generating per-click revenue for spammers. Tip: Delete, avoid, ignore. You’ll waste money and make your computer a playground for thieves.

Some general tips to avoid and prevent cons:

  • If it’s not personalized to you (i.e. “a friend/colleague told me I could trust you”) it’s a scam.
  • If you are asked to call a certain number that isn’t listed in the e-mail, they’re covering their paths. It’s a scam.
  • If it’s a bank wanting verification of your account or username, never click the link to the fake page. It’s very easy to think you’re safely at your bank while they collect your username and password.
  • If they’re in a hurry, it’s likely a con. If they get emotional, cut your losses immediately.
  • Finally, don’t suffer silently. Social media is a powerful tool for making scammers accountable. Make a video, blog about it, share your story. Sure- you’re embarassed, but you can save a lot of people.

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Dec 19 2013

Getting a Better Sleep Thanks to Foam

With winter here, more and more of us Canadians will be looking forward to nice long bouts of sleep under warm sheets and on top of comfortable mattresses. So if you’re not happy with your current mattresses performance, now is probably the time to replace it. One popular option more and more people are turning to is foam.

Foam provides superior comfort by dispersing your weight and not giving adverse pushback like spring mattresses do. So you’ll sleep sounder and wake up fresher.

Many prefer a latex mattress. Canada residents who like theirs can still augment them thanks to foam. They can purchase foam inserts specially designed to go on top of the mattress. It’s just a thin layer of foam that helps the individual experience a better rest, without having to replace a perfectly good mattress.

You can even purchase foam for your dog beds. Canada is home to countless dogs, after all, and they deserve uninterrupted rest just as much as the rest of us. Here, too, foam inserts cam be used on top of the preexisting dog bed. Or, if there is no dog bed, your canine will be plenty happy with just the far more affordable foam insert.

If you’re not sold on foam mattresses yet, consider just purchasing a quality insert first and giving that a few nights worth of sleep.


Article submitted by Canada Foam by Mail. They offer every kind of mattress Canada residents could want and they can supply them by mail.

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Dec 17 2013

Cushions for Your Boat

If you own a boat, you probably look forward to every opportunity you can get to take it out on the water for some fishing, jet skiing or just to be around nature. There are many important facets of a boat that are absolutely essential to its operation. In fact, it can be easy to forget about other important fixtures until they stop working correctly. Seat cushions are a perfect example. Your boat will still work just fine without them, but chances are no one will want to join you on it.

Fortunately, it’s relatively easy and inexpensive to replace your boat’s broken down cushions once they’ve stopped working. Thanks to the internet, in fact, it’s easier than ever to fine what you need at a price you can live with.

Foam cushions come in all shapes and sizes and even differ by the actual material they use. So if you’re in the market, it’s important to know what you’re looking for. Dry fast foam is essential, for one. It’s a specific kind of foam cushion that will provide the comfort you demand, but dry out easily after being exposed to water.

Some people might not think certain parts of their boat need that kind of consideration. For example, many yacht cushions may be located inside, far from the water. But a wet body could transfer water to them with ease, potentially ruining them. Be smart and insist on the dry fast variety.


Article submitted by The Foam Factory. The company sells all manner of seat foam for outdoor furniture, indoor furniture and even the type used in RVs and boats.

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Dec 16 2013

Strategies For Controlling Your Anger

Published by under Health

Everybody gets angry, but out-of-control rage isn’t good for you or those around you. When you can’t control your anger, you may get into fist-fights or drive recklessly, for example, endangering yourself and others.

But anger also plays havoc with your own body. Research shows that anger can increase people’s — especially men’s — chances of developing coronary heart disease and having worse outcomes if they already have heart disease.1 Anger can also lead to stress-related problems, such as insomnia, digestive problems, and headaches.

You can learn to control your anger, however. In one study for example, cognitive-behavioral therapy improved people’s control of their anger and reduced their hostility, aggression, and depression.2 Here are some strategies you can use to simmer down. If you are in a relationship with a hot-tempered partner, you could both benefit from these techniques.


Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help soothe angry feelings.

Try these simple steps:

  • Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm. Breathing from your chest won’t relax you, so picture your breath coming up from your “gut.”
  • Slowly repeat a calming word or phrase, such as “relax” or “take it easy.” Keep repeating it to yourself while breathing deeply.
  • Use imagery. Visualize a relaxing experience from your memory or your imagination.
  • Try non-strenuous, slow exercises. Yoga and similar activities can relax your muscles and calm you down.

Practice these techniques daily. Eventually, you’ll be able to use them automatically when you’re in a tense situation.

Cognitive Restructuring

Simply put, cognitive restructuring means changing the way you think. When you’re angry, your thinking can get overly dramatic. When something goes wrong, you might tell yourself, “Everything’s ruined!” With cognitive restructuring, you replace those kinds of thoughts with more reasonable ones. You might tell yourself instead, “This is frustrating, but it’s not the end of the world.”

Try these strategies:

  • Avoid words like “never” or “always” when talking about yourself or others. Statements like “This never works” or “You’re always forgetting things” make you feel your anger is justified and there’s no way to solve the problem. Such statements also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.
  • Focus on goals. Say you have a friend who’s constantly late when you get together. Don’t go on the attack. Instead, think about what you want to accomplish. State the problem and then try to find a solution that works for both of you. If that doesn’t work, take matters into your own hands. You might tell your friend to meet you half an hour earlier than you plan to arrive, so that he or she will get there when you do. Either way, the problem is solved — without damaging the friendship.
  • Use logic. Even when it’s justified, anger can quickly become irrational. Remind yourself that the world is not out to get you and that you’re just experiencing one of life’s inevitable rough spots. Do this each time you start feeling angry, and you’ll get a more balanced perspective.
  • Translate expectations into desires. Angry people tend to demand things, whether it’s fairness, appreciation, agreement, or just the willingness to do things their way. We are all hurt, disappointed, and frustrated when we don’t get what we want, but don’t let disappointment turn into anger. Some people use anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn’t make the hurt go away. Instead, become aware of your demanding nature and change your demands into requests. Saying you would like something is healthier than saying you must have it.


Sometimes anger and frustration are the result of very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Anger can be a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. Some people have a cultural belief that every problem has a solution. That belief adds to their frustration when they find out that this isn’t always true. If you can’t find a solution, focus on how to handle and face the problem.

Make a plan and check your progress along the way, using a guide to organizing or time management if needed. Give it your best, but don’t punish yourself if you don’t find an answer right away.

Better Communication

Angry people tend to jump to conclusions, however far-fetched. If you are in a heated discussion, slow down. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. And take your time before answering. Instead of saying the first thing that comes into your head, think carefully about what you want to say.

Think about what’s behind your anger. Say you value your freedom, but your significant other wants more closeness. If he or she starts complaining, don’t retaliate by painting you partner as a jailer.

It’s natural to get defensive when you’re criticized, but don’t fight back. Instead, listen to what’s beneath the words. Perhaps the real message is that your partner feels neglected and unloved. It may take patient questioning, but don’t let anger spin things out of control.


Humor can help defuse rage in several ways.

For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you find yourself thinking of a coworker as a single-cell life form, think what that would look like, picturing an amoeba sitting at a desk and talking on the phone. Or draw a picture. Doing so will take the edge off your fury or help defuse a tense situation.

Humor can also help when you find yourself being unreasonable. If you find yourself thinking that things not going your way is an unbearable indignity you shouldn’t have to tolerate, picture yourself as a god or goddess who always gets your way while others defer to you. The more detail you add, the more you’ll realize how unreasonable you are and how unimportant the things you’re angry about really are.

There are two cautions in using humor. First, don’t try to just “laugh off” your problems. Rather, use humor to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don’t use harsh, sarcastic humor. Such humor is just another form of aggression.

What these techniques have in common is a refusal to take yourself too seriously.

Environmental Change

Sometimes it’s your immediate circumstances that prompt angry feelings. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you angry at the trap you seem to have fallen into — and all the people and things that form that trap.

Take road rage, for example. If driving makes you furious, research suggests, you’re putting yourself and others at risk.3 Angry drivers are more aggressive, take more chances, and report more accidents and near-misses than their more relaxed counterparts. If your commute leaves you frustrated or enraged, perhaps you could find a less congested or more scenic route. Or investigate alternative options, such as taking a bus or train. Finding alternatives can ease your anger, making the road safer for everyone.

Try these other tips for easing up:

  • Give yourself a break. Make sure to schedule some personal time during especially stressful parts of the day. You might have a rule that the first 15 minutes after coming home from work will be quiet time, for example. With this brief respite, you’ll feel better prepared to handle demands from your kids without blowing up.
  • Consider the timing. If you and your spouse tend to fight at night, perhaps it’s because you’re tired, distracted, or just accustomed to fighting then. Try changing the times when you talk about important matters so these talks don’t turn into arguments.
  • Avoid what you can. If you get furious when you walk by your child’s messy room, shut the door. Don’t make yourself look at what infuriates you. And don’t tell yourself your child should clean up so you won’t have to be angry. That’s not the point: The point is to keep yourself calm.

How a Psychologist Can Help

If you continue to feel overwhelmed, consult with a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional who can help you learn how to control your anger. He or she can help you identify problem areas and then develop an action plan for changing them.

Practicing psychologists use a variety of evidence-based treatments — most commonly therapy — to help people improve their lives. Psychologists, who have doctoral degrees, receive one of the highest levels of education of any health care professionals. On average, they spend seven years in education and training following their undergraduate degrees.

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Dec 14 2013

Drive your Holiday Away in the Caymans

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On your next holiday, are you going to take the tour bus or hotel service to the many wonderful, yet pre-set, tourist attractions, or will you take the plunge and arrange your own tour in your time, and at your own pace? I know what my answer would be, and I will definitely take the adventure of a lifetime and find my own way around, get lost, and find, and experience the spots the way the locals would – and such no better way exists than driving yourself around in your own personal rental car.

Next time you find yourself in the area of the beautiful Island nation of the Cayman Islands, treat yourself to your own adventure with the help of car rentals grand cayman. By choosing a reliable car rentals cayman service, not only do you get a set of wheels, but also the freedom to move to where you want to go, at the time of your choosing. No more fixed schedules, packed coaches and buses, only you, your loved ones and the fresh sea breeze in your own rental car. However, be wary of cheap fly-by-night rental services, as many of them can end you on the side of the road with poorly maintained vehicles and limited service. Always remember to choose only reputable rental providers with flawless service history and a 24-hour phone concierge to make sure that your holiday stays pleasant.


Article submitted by Andy’s Rent-A-Car, A reliable provider of quality rental cars grand cayman.

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Nov 25 2013

Driving into the Future

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Posted by Phin Upham

Most movies that depict the future show flying cars and highways in the sky. How close are we to reaching this fantasy? In the article, “The Future of Driving,” Tom Chiarella goes on a journey to find out exactly where the evolution of cars and roads are headed.

At the time that the article was written, in 2006, a Ph.D. student at MIT had already created the closest the author could get to a flying car. It’s called the Transition, a car with folding wings that operates on premium gasoline. However, inventor Carl Dietrich makes sure the author understands that the vehicle is in reality more like a “plane that drives.”

Chiarella’s journey leads him to a hydrogen-car prototype. Considered the car of the future, the car can only go about a hundred miles because it runs on hydrogen. Finally, he gets to visit the MIT Media Lab in Cambridge, the place where the Smart Cities projects is being developed. The article goes into detail about the project and shows a future that might be close to what we see in the movies and comic books.

In his question to find the “future of driving,” he also spends a great deal of time describing what it’s like to be in the driver’s seat today, from experiencing traffic to the freedom of hitting the open road.

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Nov 24 2013

Foam for Your Walls

When people think of foam they think of all kinds of comfortable materials. They might think of their mattress or favorite chair. They may even think of furniture on their boat. But foam’s unique properties make it useful for more than just taking a load off. Continue reading to discover why your walls might do better with some added foam.

Every Canadian can probably appreciate the importance of quality insulation. When winter comes, even the best home heating system can’t save you if you don’t have the right insulation. Foam is great in this regard. It’s affordable and versatile, for one thing. The latter asset makes it truly helpful as you can alter it for the exact wall and fitting you need. A great example is polyurethane foam. Canada has countless homes staying warm right now thank to that variety.

That’s not the only foam you might want near your walls. Acoustic foam is another good example. Thanks to its specific design, acoustic foam helps you take control of the sounds in your home. It’s especially helpful if you have a sound booth, where sounds must be treated in a specific matter to get the result you want.

Although you probably use foam mostly to keep you comfortable, there’s more to the material than that. As the above shows, foam is also great for dealing with sound and cold.


Article submitted by Canada Foam by Mail. The company supplies just about everything foam-related, from polystyrene insulation to upholstery foam and the kind you use for mattresses.

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Nov 23 2013

The Importance of Outdoor Foam

Everyone loves spending time outdoors. While we work hard to make the inside of our home as enjoyable as possible, it can never replace sunlight, fresh air and the perfect breeze. Of course, most of us still insist on some modern charm, which is why we outfit our patios, porches, decks and even boats with comfortable furniture. Without the right foam, though, this comfort is doomed to lose its charm fast.

Marine foam cushions can put up with a lot, for example. That’s why it’s so important to use the right kind of foam as well as the right casing for it. You want to use Dryfast foam as it is designed to put up with the rigors of life on the sea. This is because this particular foam has wide cells for breathability, allowing it to dry quickly. Furthermore, it makes it harder for bacteria to form a it’s antimicrobial.

Dryfast makes sense for your outdoor furniture as well, then. Your patio certainly sees range and if your porch is a four-season, it may very well see exposure to the weather on a regular basis. Do yourself a favor and use foams like Dryfast for these applications too. You won’t have to worry about rain completely ruining your furniture. In fact, you’ll be back to sitting on it within the day!


Article submitted by The Foam Factory. They specialize in everything foam-related from packaging foam to sofa foam to the type you need for outdoor furniture.

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